Soulmates / Exhalation / Instant dice

Recomendo - issue #494

Black‑Mirror‑style sci-fi about soulmates

Soulmates is a one-season sci-fi show on Netflix that imagines a near future where individuals can take a DNA test that guarantees a match with their one true soulmate. Each episode is a stand-alone and follows different people who have taken the test and are now living with the consequences. Marriages are tested, cults are formed, and love becomes something you can measure, monetize, and manipulate. One of the series creators and writers is Brett Goldstein, who is best known for Ted Lasso. It’s very Black-Mirror-esque and thought-provoking, and I’m bummed that it was never renewed. — CD

Good science fiction

I don’t read much science fiction, so when I do I am picky. An author I find reliably good is Ted Chiang, who writes mostly short stories, including the one that was the basis for the movie Arrival. I really like his anthology of nine stories, Exhalation. I would classify his genre as well-crafted, somewhat literary, hard (plausible) science fiction, with inventive, deep and original stories. I am a fan in large part because most of his stories are uplifting rather than the usual dystopian. — KK

Instant dice

My cousin invited me over for breakfast recently. He pulled a Mueller vegetable chopper from a cabinet — a clear plastic box with a grid of sharp blades on top. He placed half an onion on the grid and pressed down with the attached lever. It chopped the onion into perfect tiny squares. He repeated with a bell pepper, making short work of it. Cleanup is easy; just rinse and let dry. I ordered one for myself and learned it handles potatoes just as easily. — MF

Favorite YouTube makers

I subscribe to 40 different YouTubers who make stuff in their workshops. I watch them for how-to tips, to learn shop techniques, and for inspiration for possible projects. If I rank them by how much I’ve learned from them, in my top five are three non-Americans (an Australian and two Canadians) who are life-long makers, who are great explainers, and who are also experimentalists in how and what they build. Pask Makes continually learns and explores new skills, John Heisz is a born innovator with tools and master technician, and Matthias Wandel, makes his own shop tools from plywood. They are fantastic teachers, never boring. — KK

“Both can be true” chart

This “Both can be true” chart highlights that emotional intelligence means holding dualities, or two seemingly opposite truths, at the same time. For example, you can feel angry and still choose to respond calmly, or care deeply about someone and still set boundaries to protect your energy around them. I personally relate to the one about knowing and naming my feelings, but still being caught off guard by them. I used to feel shame around that, but now I find it curious and funny—an opportunity to laugh at myself instead. — CD

Rock Paper Scissors strategy

I don’t remember where I first encountered this, but it works surprisingly well: after each round, switch to the option neither player used. If your rock loses to their paper, throw scissors next. If your scissors beat their paper, throw a rock next. I've been testing it against my friends and winning more than chance would predict. The World Rock Paper Scissors Association has more sophisticated strategies. — MF

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